Let’s just jump right into it because
If you feel the need to comment on someone’s appearance, friend, family, or otherwise, I want you to ask yourself this question, “Can it be fixed in five seconds?”
If the answer is no, DON’T SAY IT.
I repeat: š if it will take the person longer than five seconds to correct, DON’T FREAKING SAY IT! š
For example, if someone has food in their teeth, it will take them five seconds to clear it out – tell them.
If a girl’s skirt or dress is tucked into her underwear – tell her.
If there’s a trail of toilet paper stuck to their shoe – tell them.
If a girl has lipstick on her teeth or eye liner smudged under her eyes – tell her.
Examples of When Not to Comment on Someone’s Appearance
If you don’t like the cut and color of someone’s hair – does a hair cut or dye job take longer than five seconds?
If you don’t like someone’s clothes – does it take longer than five seconds for them to get undressed and then pick out and get dressed in new clothes?
If you don’t like the way a girl does her makeup – does it take her longer than five seconds to do it?
If you notice someone needs to lose or gain weight – does that process take longer than five seconds?
If you haven’t noticed, the answer to all of these examples is a glaring YES! Which means your commentary is not welcome.
And these lists are not exhaustive – there are a ton more that could be added. Please, please, please ask yourself this question the next time you want to offer your unsolicited opinion on someone else’s appearance.
What examples would you add to these lists?
Mascara & Grace 
Kalyn. truer words have never been spoken. while some of us may wish for the perfect hair, makeup, body sometimes it just is not going to happen. Since the passing of my husband my opinion is take me as i am or dont worry about taking me at all. i come in one package and i have no one in particular that i wish to impress. i am ME and i am content with myself as is.
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That is a wonderful perspective to have!
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I love this so much! This is the best way I have seen this kind of thing described! I am totally going to say this to myself from now on.
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Awesome! This is a great way to be able to distinguish between what is helpful and what is hurtful.
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I’ve never heard of this rule and now I wish everyone would do this! Tweeted š
Unsolicited opinions annoy the hell out of me, so I feel awkward giving them to people (unless it’s a compliment). This reminds me of the good old “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, only improved. Thanks for sharing! š
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Thanks for the tweet! I’m glad you found this helpful and hopefully so does your circle š
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Wonderful Post. I’ve never heard of this rule, but it is obviously one every should live by. I have heard comments people make about others, solely based on personal opinion, and it sometimes makes me cringe inside. I have been on the receiving in of hurtful comments as well and, therefore, try my best not to use my words to hurt. Humanity would be better off with a bit less talk anyway.
“Think before you speak. Pray before you act. Because once you say or do it, you can never take it back.” –Unknown
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Yes, I agree! Less talking and more thinking and listening!
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